Connections

Getting Through it

The conversation left me in shock and hurting from a deep place.  I wondered how to respond. What do I do next? How could I “get through it?” I knew I could somehow, I’ve told myself and others “you can get through it.” The phrase is offered as comfor...

I'm certain you heard of the recent meeting in Paris where the world came together in concern about climate change. I want us to consider creating a different climate change.  The climate around victims of sex abuse.  I remain stunned that we continue to allow a clima...

Last Saturday Rachel and I sat with a bereft mother of a 5 year old girl who had revealed that her step-dad was doing inappropriate sexual things.  These statements were said to the mom as she sought support from family and friends:

“You’re just unhappy in your marria...

When the movie ended, the handful of people in attendance just sat there.  I was crying, trying to get my emotions under control. The movie “Spotlight” is a powerful portrayal of the investigation by the Boston Globe that uncovered the priest abuse and the complicit pa...

A few days ago I was sitting with a victim of sex abuse who had recently told her "story" in a large group setting.  She explained to me that in that moment, and ever since, she had felt deep shame.  My response to her was, "speak to the shame."  Her response was, "ho...

As I gaze out this window and try to find words to describe what I see, I can choose between two words.  I see either a hill or a mountain.  Choosing which word to describe what I see is important for there is a great distinction between a mountain and a hill.

T...