BEYOND RECOVERY TO RESTORATION
So you think you know how to deal with sex abuse? THINK AGAIN!
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If you have experienced sex abuse, until you identify and shift the beliefs born of sex abuse trauma, the trauma still controls you. You have not "survived" until you do the work to overcome the impact of sex abuse.
Sex abuse is not your identity! Sex abuse is something that happened to you that blurred your sense of self. It does not define you - unless you let it!
You can gain control of your life as you do the work of Restoration.
Restoration is looking at beliefs and coping mechanisms that hinder you, gain skills to shift them, and reconnect to authentic identity.
Your Greatest Self.
You were created with all you need to be you! Your personality, your preferences, your talents, your passions, your interests, are all hardwired in your DNA.
Trauma and dysfunctional families cause each of us to disconnect from who we were created capable of being. We accept labels and assign meanings to our experiences. That's not the authentic you.
The process of restoration provides the direction for cleaning off labels, and reconnecting to Authentic Identity. That's where your power lies.
When you appropriate the skills offered in our Advance! Workbook, you will have the core skills to impact your life rather than be impacted by it.
Recognize: See the impact of sex abuse in your language, actions and demeanor. Recognize safe people and the positive messages you receive.
Responsibiity: You are responsible to change. Do the hard work of shifting the negative and hurtful impact.
Internalize: Make the positive aspects of you part of your thinking. Replace the negative beliefs and thoughts.
Power of Agreement: You do not have to stay the same. You can stop agreeing with the assigned negative values and agree with the truth of your value.
When you share the story of sex abuse, (the typical approach to healing), you gain some power in voice and come out of the isolation created in secrecy.
However, just talking about the sex abuse you experienced will NOT heal you. The damage done is deeper than the story of sex abuse that you experienced.
The impact lies in the beliefs and coping mechanisms put in place as a result of the trauma. And those beliefs are driving your life today. We contend that as long as you live out of these beliefs, you are still a victim of that abuse.
When someone tells you, "why are you still thinking about that - it happened years ago", they don't realize that you ARE still living it because the beliefs about yourself and your world developed in trauma are still there.
As a victim, you can start living your own life by taking down these trauma induced beliefs.
As a member of your community you can start transforming the cultural norm by living out of new mindsets.
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Being part of the Quest CST men’s group has given me hope to change, a process to continue to change, an understanding of my false beliefs that I’d never had previously, an enriched vision for my future, knowledge that I’m not alone in my issues, and hope to change
J.T., Male Victim
The workbook and their teaching gave me tools to recognize and undo negative ways of thinking. I don't believe (after many years of therapy) that I have had such a great tool and understanding to reach the deep wounds'. .
Going through the Advance! group helped me identify the relationships that were destructive to who I am as a person. It also helped me develop healthier skills so that I could take better care of myself in relationships.
Primary Prevention means that we stop sex abuse before it happens. By changing cultural norms we shift thinking, then behaviors and move towards ending sex abuse!
Using a survey of 300 people in our community, we have identified several cultural mindsets that provide a foundation for the existence of sex abuse.
If we shift these, we shift the culture! Check out the "change your mindset".
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